Love and Marriage: It’s just the path

The start and the end extend into the interim which has no special signifance except for providing a path to reach the destiny. We take birth and move through the journey of life overcoming a few hurdles and tasting success only to perish in the hands of death. This is the stepping stone to our destination if we attain moksha or yet another start following a different path to reach the same destination that we have sought for in the previous life. This principle is applicable to not just life but to every essential aspect of life which itself is not too essential to life as a whole. 

One such aspect that encompasses the path to destination is marriage. The start is characterised by the pre married life and the absence of a life partner while the end is characterised by the happiness and joy one derives from his marriage. One notable path is the love marriage and the second is arranged marriage. There is much chaos and debate regarding these two paths to destination but the solution is much simpler when we consider the essence of marriage and love rather than delving deep and examining to differentiate the two in every possible manner.

Love has no meaning when it does not lead to marriage and marriage doesn’t have in it the happiness when love doesn’t arise. Love is essential to ensure that days are not spent looking into each others’ faces that do not have even the slightest expression of joy. Love that has taken birth prior to marriage needs be taken care of like a fragile glass work that might break if dropped down and love that is in the process of opening itself to the couple is like a young plant highly susceptible and delicate. Love arises and strengthens with a gentle smile, a short look into the eyes and a warm touch.

Love leads to understanding and cooperation. There is no longer a need to convey through words. Feelings deeply hidden in the the heart can be seen in the eyes. Pain gets shared when the eyes realise it. A quick day in the office ends with a warm welcome in the house. The ordeal at the office is erased form memory on seeing the warm welcome form the one who would be by the side for the rest of the life. And the man realises the struggle put forth by her love to keep everything moving. On either side, there is an understanding of the roles and cooperation arises as a natural follow up. The day when she is sick, he performs the household chores and when there is deficiency of money, emotions attached to the ornaments are sacrificed. And then emerges a happy family.

Understanding and cooperation lead to compromise in the rarest of the rare cases for there hardly arises a need for it. Things sometime go out of control. Voices are raised. If at these crucial moments, the mind outwits the heart, a disaster sets in. But a relationship that has reached this stage through marriage and love, not definitely in the same order possesses the in built capability to move back to the stage when things were fine.

Either love leads to marriage or marriage leads to love. The duo with their combined efforts pave way for understanding and cooperation which in turn call upon compromise when needed. All these essentials result in a long lasting relationship which only ends with the death of the couple when the soul either reaches the destination or moves to another beginning which has traces of neither the marriage nor the love. The end is all that had paved way to the beginning and the beginning would pave way to another ending with a new love and a new marriage!

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